There’s a phenomenon developing that has been especially noticeable to me the past few weeks. Relationships are about instant gratification now more than ever. Its so easy and convenient to contact someone when we need or want something from them. Forget making plans, just wait until you’re bored and send a booty text.
Call me a cynic; but these days, people just want to be entertained.
I’m not saying that meaningful relationships are impossible to find nowadays, but its become very easy too evade them should that be your (conscious or subconscious) goal. Not only that, but hiding behind our technology means its easier to manipulate and be manipulated. We do it to others, and we do it to ourselves. Don’t get me wrong, I’m of the “human nature is basically sort of not all that douche-y” school of thought (refer to the philosophy of my man, Rosseau, if you’re into all that academia crapola). Sometimes though, we’re too smart for our own good. We abuse the power of technology and our intelligence at the expense of empathetic behavior.
I sense a lot of people, young ones especially, seeking fulfillment in their lives. As douche-y as that makes me sound, I really do. Naturally, we look for the easiest way to accomplish this task.
To be alive is to be a contradiction. We hunger for what is illogical, but then try to use logical means to find it. To be a person of substance isn’t easy in today’s world.
T.V., Social Media, Substances, Celebrity and Sex. We look to all of these things to offer us a little glimpse of our purpose.
And what do we find?
T.V., Social Media, Substances, Celebrity and Sex. All these things try to tell us that we need more. They tell us that happiness is instant gratification of our basest desires. The reduce us to processing only the very top layer of our psyches.
I’m sorry, but that sucks.
The brain is like an onion. The outside layer is covered in dirt and bruised by whatever abrasive force it comes in contact with. No one in their right mind would ever use it to cook with. Peel off this layer, and you get closer to the usable core. After navigating the outer layers, one finally reaches the flavorful center. Sweet and Pure, this is where the worth of the onion lies. This is the part we should simmer in the sauce pans of our lives. When we rely on the superficial gratification, we are trying to sauté the flaky, dirty outer layer. The result? A dish that leaves bad flavors in your mouth and a lot to be desired.
I have a friend who I have only ever spent time with when he was intoxicated or high. I have another friend who needs to validate every experience she has on instagram. Maybe they think they’re happy. But what is “being happy”? Is it constantly hiding from the extra work it might take to untangle the knot we call our personal “identity”? I don’t think so.
I know I could benefit a lot from taking a look at my cooking habits right now. Maybe you could too. What part of the onion have you been using to flavor your dish?
Food for thought.